Filipina, Stop the Abuse!

It had become quite common that a Filipina woman is expected and required to carry the yoke in a relationship all the time. Whatever is the shortcoming of her partner, with open eyes and open arms, she will gladly accept with an understanding and obliging heart. The factors that contribute to the abuse vary accordingly: intraindividual, marital, social-psychological, social-structural, and social location. A study enumerated these factors, and even considered them as risk factors, and they are classified according to the type of abuse a Filipina woman receives.

There are even news that with the physical abuse received from the partner, and emotional abuse from womanizing,and though her partner is useless and more like a burden,the Filipina woman will accept the situation, believing that all these are part of being married or in a relationship with the one she loves.

Aside from this strong belief of giving importance to the family, the weight of what the relatives say and think, and also what the society thinks, affect the thinking of a martyr Filipina woman. The family's reputation and name are very important matters to her that she will do her best not to disclose the bad things and situation about her family. The result, bear the situation until the end because he is her husband or partner in life.

But this should not be happening at all. The time has come for the Filipina woman to realize that not all things for love can be endured though it is not wrong to love, obtain respect, and desire good things for the relationship.

It is a crime against a person, against the relationship, and the love between the partners those things that are foul and below the belt. Though most Filipina women will stick to the relationship no matter what, and not abandon her love even during the most challenging times, it is but right to put an end to the abuse. The Filipina woman has a right against these abuses.

Sometimes it is better to be hurt from a separation or break-up because the wounds will heal at the right time than to bear an abusive relationship and cry almost everyday. Aside from this, it is truly possible that the person (the woman in this case) will be further ruined in the eyes her children who are the witnesses of the abuse. If the woman feels that she is already living in hell because of the relationship, what more would it feel like for the children?

It may be against her will to decide putting an end to the abuse, or it will appear like going against the tide, the Filipina woman has to think of those that depend more on her and that is her children. Even without a child to protect from the harshness of this abusive situations, she has to think for her safety and self-respect all the time.