Happy People Do Not Compare

I remember a quote that says somewhat like this, "Do not compare yourself to others or you may end up believing that you are better or lesser than the other person; in either case, they are both not true."

I could not remember who wrote it and if the words are exactly the same.  But I could not forget the thought that got imprinted on my mind. It served as a guide and a conviction, too.  It is a happy discovery that as we keep on comparing, we tend to be more and more depressed and bitter.  I discovered that we compare and convince ourselves that we are better because we actually lack something or many things in our lives.  Indifference and insecurities are by-products of comparison.  People tend to find the flaws in a person to make themselves feel superior.

The result:  unhappiness, discontent.  The quote tells us that it is neither true that we are better or lesser than other people.  I totally agree because each of us are unique in our own ways.  No two people are alike.  Even twins have their own prominent characteristics and weaknesses.  Siblings who grew up together in a tight-knit family and close to each other have their outstanding traits unique from the others.

Instead of comparing then feeling ill towards other people, make other people's virtues and distinction an inspiration to be a better person.  Be happy for others.  Be happy for yourself.  Whatever you have, be thankful of the blessings and privilege you receive that others do not. Instill in your heart and mind that we cannot have everything.  Perhaps it is for the reason that the world has to have its equilibrium.  It is not a balanced world when everyone who resides in this world are beautiful, or rich, or talented.  We need the mediocre or the conventional to identify the exceptional, and to help us work for a goal.

That is why I look at little children with a smile on my face.  How uncomplicated their lives are.  So innocent, so free of life's concerns.