Not Because You Shouted
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It is a familiar Filipino household scene where a child is glued to the television set unmindful of his mother asking him to clean his room. After repeated yelling, the child still would not mind. The mother will continue her angry outburst until she gets hold of a wooden rod threatening him that she will strike him with it. By this time, the child will move and do the task.
The mother usually will say that she has to repeatedly shout before the child follows what he or she's been told to do. But it was not the yelling that made the child heed. It was the wooden post.
Some mothers do not shout. They talk straight to the point looking at the child's eyes and tell them what they wanted done. They give instructions clearly and make it a point that the children will follow. If the mothers will check if the tasks were done, they will find out if the children followed. If the mothers just let it pass, when the children did not follow, the children will not learn and will always continue not doing what they're told to do. These children know if their mothers are serious with what they say.
People who acquire results make it a point to implement what needs to be done. They are always ready to act on a situation. We follow police officers' instruction, for example, because they will act on a given situation. They do not shout but we follow. They give the message straight to the point. Their actions do not imply "do not steal" but rather "steal and I will arrest you".
Shouting or yelling does not make people follow. People follow because they feel that a person is serious in what they wanted done, and that they should follow.
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Nice hub, one that all mothers should read, me being one of them. Thanks for sharing, I needed this one, very good reminder!
Good hub, and we agree, shouting at children does not get results.
Equally, shouting at adults doesn't work and sometimes it achieves the opposite of what is intended.
teaching is not only a noble but challenging profession. it will truly test one's patience. it is really admirable how a teacher can do the task with so much discipline, too. yelling should be done only to stress. thank you for the nice thoughts, bkcreative.
i think mothers can be so stressed at times that yelling could not be avoided. good luck to motherhood, ladybird33.
shouting at children will not receive that equal reaction probably but with adults, it is a different story. you will get shout at, too, 2patricias. thank you and enjoy!
BkCreative Level 6 Commenter 2 years ago
Soooo true. And this is true in teaching as well. I make it a point to never yell - that is a true sign that you have lost control and children know it - plus it streeses your whole body. When you hear a teacher yelling in the classroom - you know there will always be discipline problems.
Structure, discipline, parameters, punishment, and 'the look' - it all works - and should there come a time I yell - then you know it is serious business.
Adults who argue with their children, you become their equal - it's absurd.
Nicely put hub!